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Monthly Archives: October 2016

Way survive as a Single Parent

Being a parent is hard enough. What should they be eating? Maybe you shouldn’t be feeding them those types of foods… those aren’t organic! What fabric softener should you be using? Are you spending enough time with them? Why does my child keep fighting on the playground? These are questions that you may ask yourself every day, and there are times when you might feel like nothing that you do is good enough.

These points are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to parenting, and then there is a whole other side to the task; one that is unfortunately very common- and that is being a single parent. It is never ideal having to face challenges alone, let alone one of them being the insurmountable task of raising another human being! In addition to the financial, physical and emotional loneliness, it can also be hard to maintain a balance between your role as a parent and as someone who has needs of their own.

The fact is that you may have found yourself, through any circumstance, as a single parent. What now? Is it possible to not only survive, but thrive as a single parent too? Of course it is! After all, one of the parts of being a good parent is being a good example, and a good example means a strong, happy parent who survives, thrives and excels beyond that. Here are some tips for surviving and thriving as a single parent:

  • It takes a village… There is an old saying that goes ‘it takes a village to raise a child;’ and this could not be more true. After all, it is hard to survive without any support. However possible, rally people around you and your little ones. Make friends with the parents of your child’s friends. If you can afford it, get a nanny who can spend lots of time with you and your child – enough time that you trust them to help with your child when you have to run an errand or attend an event. If you have family nearby, nurture the relationships. After all, not only will this help you get by in times of need (such as when you are sick, or have a work commitment), but it also brings a lot more love and attention into your child’s life, which is just what every little one needs.
  • Your workplace. Be candid with your boss and colleagues. Make it clear up front that you have a child and are doing it alone. At all costs, do your best to avoid working for a company that is not understanding of your responsibilities. If you have to leave early to attend a parent-teacher meeting, or need to take a day of leave to nurse your sick child, you need to know that your company has your back. If you are working for a larger corporation, or one that is not as lenient as you would like, know your rights. You have the right to take family responsibility leave if your child is sick (although you will need a Doctor’s note), and you have the right to work reasonable hours if you are not being paid overtime. Even if you are a workaholic, do your utmost best to separate your work life from your home life. Your child comes first, and remember, to a child, love equals quality time!
  • Make an effort to have ‘you time.‘ ‘Me time?’ you ask, ‘what’s that?’ Although it can seem impossible when you are so busy trying to work and raise a little one (or ones) all on your own, it is possible and actually crucial that you make an effort to spend time pampering yourself. Hire a babysitter, lean on friends or arrange a playdate so that you can take some time out to meet with friends, go to the spa, or even just to have an afternoon nap.
  • Talk to people. Find someone to confide in. It’s okay if you don’t feel strong all the time, and talking about your problems helps! Even if your friends aren’t single parents or parents at all, don’t underestimate their love for you, and their willingness to lend an ear.
  • Try to further yourself. Even if you can only set aside an hour or so each evening to do an online course or correspondence degree, do something that you feel will help your future. Whether it’s a short course that builds on your existing degree, or taking the time to learn a new language, by learning something new, and being proud of yourself, you will feel like you have some sort of end in sight to your current struggles.
  • Do something you enjoy as often as you can. This should always include exercise! Be active, and get those endorphins pumping! Download exercise videos that you can do in the morning or evening, in the comfort of your own home, when your child is asleep. Go for walks with your little ones and, if you have them, drag the doggies along with you. Read a book in the bath every night; dance while you cook – find joy in the little moments and the simple things. This is your life, and you are living it right now. You deserve to be happy.

Even when you are married with kids, it can be tough to stay afloat, sane and balanced. Being a single parent is another ballgame all together. By following the abovementioned points, you may start to feel like you are not only surviving, but also thriving. But all this aside, remember just how rewarding your job is. Sure, you’re a mom or a dad, and it’s not always easy, but it is worth it. So, the next time that you are feeling overwhelmed, like you are in over your head and barely surviving, cuddle up on the couch with your kid, chat to them about their day and let your heart fill with love. After all, that deep, unconditional love is exactly what keeps you going no matter how hard the going gets.

Effective Strategies for Managing Stress and Anger Parents

When we have more responsibilities, we become more stressful and this stress creates anger. And parenting is that kind of job that comes with a number of responsibilities that are not only difficult to manage but also make us angry sometimes. A lot of expectations from the family and children can also create angry emotions in both parents. No matter, whether you have one child or more, no matter how disciplined your children are, you can’t run away from stress and angry emotions that occur at least once a day while parenting your kids. We know that you cannot remove all the tensions from your life but you can learn the strategies to manage the unpleasant situations that occur in everyday’s life.

Children are the heart of every parent. But, there are some situations that make parents angry. So, here are some effective strategies for stress and anger management for parents that will guide you how to react when situation is opposite to you and tips to manage your anger:

  • Notice which behavior of your children is intolerable for you and makes you angry. Start working on it calmly.
  • Anger is not the thing that can be removed by just reading a parenting book and thinking we will not become anger again. It will take time and you have to make some effective measures.
  • Notice your patience level and avoid any interaction with your child when you are angry or stressed.
  • Try to keep your stress level down. Go for exercises, meditation, and also listening to music also helps to keep you calm.
  • Do you really hear what your child tries to say? It may also happen that you are wrong at some situations. So, listen to your child carefully and see the situation from his point of view also.
  • Spend some quality time with your child, as this will help to build a strong relation between you and your child.
  • You can join some parenting classes that can effectively help you to manage stress and anger that is making your family life complicated.

Hope the above strategies will help you to manage stress which also causes anger in you and make your life difficult. Building a healthy and friendly relationship with your children makes you more confident and a stress-free parent. And when all stress is away from your home, there is no place of anger also.

Effective Parenting for Ultimate Parents

An ultimate parent is that who has a very strong and respectful bond with his/her child. Parenting becomes extremely difficult if the father and mother have different parenting styles. Did you ever notice what type of parenting style you are using with your child? Are you having a lot of expectations from your child? According to you, what is the best method of parenting?

Parenting cannot be taken as just a responsibility that you have to fulfill. Instead, it’s a feeling of love, care and wishes to raise your kids as a successful and confident person. But, how you children think and behave totally depends on the style of parenting you are using with him. Do you know about different styles of parenting? Do you really want to become an ultimate parent? Let’s explore here some styles or methods of parenting so that you have a clear understanding of what you are expecting and what to expect from your child:

Aggressive Parenting Style

Parents are very strict with many rules and harsh punishment on the negotiation of that rules. Parents expect a very high level of respect and obedience and there is not any direct communication with kids. Parents who follow this style do not have a good bond with their kids. Also, children become less confident.

Confident or Assertive Style

This style comes up with some rules, however, some expectations are also allowed. Parents have reasonable expectations from their children that every child easily fulfill. There is a direct and clear communication between parents and their child. The assertive style is the method of practicing patience, affection, and consistency.

Lenient or Permissive Style

This kind of style is known as permissive parenting. In this, parents are somewhat lenient with their kids. They set up only a few and easy rules for kids and no any harsh punishment on breaking that rules. This style comes up with only a few boundaries for kids and fulfillment of basic needs. This method protects your child from many negative consequences of life.

Uninvolved Style of Parenting

This method is adopted by those parents who totally neglect their child behavior whether it is positive or negative. These parents only fulfill materialistic needs of their children instead of social and emotional needs. They keep themselves busy in their own life, work or business etc. This style has a very negative effect on brain development of kids.

Hope, you are cleared about different parenting styles now. Many parents adopt a combination of two or three depending on their wishes and needs.

The Benefits of Parenting Coaching

Undoubtedly, parenting is the most joyful job in the world but sometimes, it becomes the biggest adventure of your life. Many parents compromise with their career opportunities to nurture their children carefully and lovingly. Becoming a successful parent is not easy. You have to be more careful and responsible. However, for maintaining your work, home and also relationship you need to be strengthening yourself to overcome parenting challenges. And for this, an efficient parenting coaching can make your task easy.

A parenting coaching program can help you deal with many issues you face every day, as well as improve your interaction with your kids. You will get some inspiring ideas for the better growth of your kids. A proficient parent coach pays attention carefully, asks some crucial questions, provides powerful solutions and offers you some plans to implement so that you can turn your relations with your family and children in a positive and effective manner. A parent coach guides you toward the development of more effective behavior, leading to a finer balance in your family. Know how parenting coaching work for you and your child and make you a stress-free and empowered parent:

  • Learn how to respond to unusual situations that arise with your child instead of reacting to them.
  • A good parenting coaching helps you to create healthier and happiest environment at home.
  • It helps to build a good bond with your children as well as your spouse.
  • As children grow, their behavior changes, demands changes and also there are some different situations arise at home which is difficult to handle. Parenting coaching helps you to deal with all these problems easily.
  • It also trains you how to communicate with your child. As communication is the major factor that has a direct impact on any relationship.
  • Parenting coaching guides you to get your child’s attention. It can provide such tips and tricks that your child itself will discuss the important things with you.
  • These classes help you to remain cool when your child is yelling.

So, parenting coaching helps you to deal with the various issues that you face as a parent. When raising a child, parents often need some tips or tricks to deal with children changing behavior which sometimes become a big challenge for some parents. Parenting coaching also provides special counseling to parents if they are going through some more challenging situations.